[4:35] And if you fear a breach between the two, send forth an arbiter from his folk, and an arbiter from her folk, if they desire to set things right, God will grant them success. Surely God is ever Knower, Aware.
It is said you have the right to her obedience in terms of the body but as for love and inclination towards you in the heart, that is up to God. So do not burden her with what God has not provided for her for hearts are in the power of God and He makes to love whom He will and makes to hate whom He will.
It is said if they then obey you, do not seek a way against them, i.e. do not forget her loyalty in the past because of single incident of antipathy in the present, for perhaps things will become amicable again.